Children aggressiveness can occur at different ages. As soon as children begin to recognize their interests, they are also beginning to notice that their interests may differ from the interests of others. It angers and irritates, causing the aggression. Bowl of Children aggressiveness appears to inflict physical pain to another child.
Children aggressiveness: how to fight it?
Children aggressiveness : «time to reflect on»
Take a small break between the manifestation of the child's aggression and your reaction. This will enable the child to reflect on his behavior, and you the opportunity to act more deliberately suppressed a flash of anger. Unfortunately, this method does not apply to children under 3 years. The main disadvantage of this method is that a child deprived of a valuable life experience. Seeing them hurt a child, he can learn compassion. With the right participation of parents in such situations, you can teach the child to apologies for what he did.
Children aggressiveness : «Physical punishment»
In such cases, many parents have a desire to punish the child flogging, some just do so. This gives the child understand that he behaves badly, but at the same time shows that violence is acceptable and beat someone that's fine. Aggression breeds aggression, physical punishment you will not get the desired result.
Children aggressiveness : «Talk with your child»
conversation with the child provides an opportunity to understand the cause of aggression in the child and try to find other ways to solve problems without the use of physical force. Perhaps the child just does not know how else to express their strong feelings, he just lacks the skill or vocabulary.
To get started, simply listen to the child and try to understand what he wanted to express its action. Sometimes children who show aggression towards other children, simply offended at something. If you get into feelings of the child and help to overcome the hurt, the child will cease to beat the other children.
Try to explain to the child how to get the desired without aggression. Explain how to ask the other child's toy or as desired to take back a child's lost another machine or a doll.
Explain that the other children badly when they are insulted, because children do not know that he feels hurt a child. Explain the need to calm or the child will pay attention only to your anger, rather than on what you want him to explain. " For example: "Look at Misha, he was crying because it hurt when he was beaten." In this way, you will begin to bring in your child, empathy for others.
Help your child build the interaction with other children. Tell my child sentences and options for the collective game. For example "Mischa wants to play with your machine, find out for Misha another machine and you Will play together.»
Children aggressiveness : «Limits»
Discussions are needed, but this should not be limited. If your child is very hard at persuasion and verbal explanation of it does not help try to set limits. Tell your child that if he will fight and hurt others then you will not go to the playground to play. For example: "If you do not stop to fight with Misha, we will not go to his house until you learn to play without fighting." If the conflict within the family, then you can take the child to play in another room and set limits to both.
What would the child learn something must repeat it many times, explain how you can play with no fights, no aggression and violence. How can I wish to explain it in words, why the fight is bad, it would be if he continues to fight and show aggression. Children aggressiveness - a common phenomenon, but gradually your child will learn to interact with other children without manifestations of aggression.